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It’s Friday, and later tonight, you may find yourself in a spot I found myself many, many Friday nights.

You’re wandering the club, alone, late.

You’re not drunk, but you’re not sober. There are some cute girls there, but you just don’t have the desire to talk to them. You have some guys you know there, but they aren’t real friends, and you know if you say something to them you’ll have to talk more.

All you really want is to be home on your couch with your laptop and your TV. Maybe a dog. Maybe some take-out chinese or buffalo wings.

You damn sure don’t want to be here in a loud club at 1:51 on a Thursday night, watching people silently and wondering why that dumb-looking obnoxious guy in the silver shiny shirt has a blond giggling on his lap, and all you have are thoughts about how you are going to get your PowerPoint ready for tomorrow’s 10 AM meeting.

It sucks. I’ve been there, the Thursday night scrapping club. You make the vow to go out and meet your goals.

“I’m gonna talk to 50 women! I’m gonna talk to 80 women! I’m gonna talk to 100 women and pull a bunch home for an after-party and a threesome, just like I read about!”

But when you get to the club, you know right away you made a mistake. You don’t want to count the number of women you talk to. You don’t want to call them “sets.” You want to get better at meeting people and making women smile, and enjoying yourself socially without that crippling feeling that this is just more hard work in a life that already has plenty o’ hard work and not nearly enough hard fun.

It’s not you. It’s not your willpower. And it’s not even the club.

It’s all about what you want. If you want to meet girls in clubs, you will have to go out to them. But you will also have to learn to enjoy them. A wise man once told me that anything you want to get good at, you need two qualities:

Practice

and Joy.

If you just have the practice but no joy, you will stop doing it. Think of the child who’s well-meaning parents get him piano lessons and make him play every Wednesday at 3 PM when his friends are outside playing tackle football in the street and yelling every time a car passes by. You think he gets a lot of joy from his practice?

Later in life, of course, that same kid will realize that while no woman is impressed by your ability to run a fly pattern and haul in a 30-yard pass with a Nerf ball, they all get wet as mosquito bogs anytime a man sits at a piano and plays three notes that don’t sound like cats screwing. So keep that in mind.

If you have the practice, you need the joy. But if you just have the joy, you won’t make much progress. You’ll be aimless, and get frustrated at your repeated same efforts, like the kid who discovers finger paints and never picks up a brush because no one teaches him anymore. I loved painting when I was a kid. I even took a painting course in college. But no one ever taught me the fundamentals of just how to hold a brush, or mix paints. And so I just stopped, despite my joy.

Practice and joy. When you plan to meet women, make sure your plan includes both of these elements. Get a good start with your practice by finding some expert instruction, like our new revolutionary home-study guided audio-video course, “Movie Star Body Language.” With the step-by-step instruction and visual modeling, and the guided visualizations within, you will learn with all your senses how to transform your body from accidentally unsure to intentionally cocky.
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Now you’ve got that, bring some love to it. Do things that make you smile. Meet women where you want to be. Go to bars with music you like. Let yourself have your favorite drink even if someone tells you not to. You’re a grown-ass man. Make your own decisions. And always, always, always decide on what’s fun.

If the night just ain’t working, you can always go home to where it’s nice, see what Tivo has waiting for you, and head off to bed, knowing today is another day, full of…

Practice. And Joy.

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