The “dating/pickup” community suffers a huge bad rep for several reasons. One of the obvious ones is that it angers couch potatoes who choose to prescribe dating success to genes, money and looks. It angers them in a deep way.
On other hand, most women and most men who are naturally confident, tend to see most of the good sides of “the community”. All is not perfect though.
There are objectively less-than-positive off putting aspects to this area and a major one of them is objectification and over complication. It is (or was until this point), full of extremely interesting social oddities which are half-geeky-engineers, half-smooth-playboys who will break down social interactions into diagrams, charts, at first seemingly strange schematics of the angles of walking, the degress of gestures and the exact frequencies of voice usage with the exactly measured out words.
The major schools in this area battled over the exact formulas (called methods) of exactly how these specifics are exactly used.
And this, is what to many can seem an off putting aspect.
Does it work? Yes.
Does it feel good to learn it? No, it kinda feels too forced and unnatural at first.
Most decided to push through the unnaturalness of the formulas, knowing, that if you use them long enough, YOU will develop into this person who is naturally a socially charismatic and attractive person, at which point you can drop the formulas.
What Cameron has done is start a new trend. A trend of going DIRECTLY for this natural aspect of BEING the man who naturally has these things “happen” to him, instead of having to “cause” them to happen.
Now, how exactly does he propose to do that?
What Mr. Teoni has managed to do, is isolate a set of attributes. A set of attributes which when developed, everything works!
To make this clearer, the notion that Teoni puts forth, is that if you have these attributes, it doesn’t matter what formula you use, it doesn’t matter WHAT you do, how you do it and when you do it. Everything bring tremendous dating success when you have the attributes.
To make the distinction clearer.
In the previous paradigm, if you wanted to approach a woman and have a stunning first interaction: the formula (of your choice) would have given you a scientifically proven way of positioning your body, the order of the words, and how they are said. In such a manner that they would convey exactly that impression which would impress the woman (that you are an attractive, confident, charming man).
In the new (attributes) paradigm, you become a supremely attractive, confident, charming man, and no matter what you say, comes across as exactly that.
Teoni does go to admit the usefulness of the “how” and develops the second half of the book, into laying out exactly the things you need to do. Even though you already have the attributes clearly laid out, and all the ways of attaining them, while they are still developing, it’s still necessary to know WHAT to do in specific situations. And fortunately, no stone is left unturned. Everything from exactly what to say when, how to set dates, to how to defeat specific fears and how to get the number or initiate the sex. There isn’t a single aspect or situation that is left uncovered.
PROS:
–A brand new and quite simplified paradigm that is “mainstream” friendly
–A practical and specific guide to personal development (badly laid out though)
CONS:
–The writing style. Even though this book has everything the reader would ever need to become supremely successful with women, the writing style almost makes it impossible that the average reader will understand it completely. It’s written in such a poor way that you already need to understand it from an expert’s level, to be able to know what is said. This can be fixed with reading the book several times, but it shouldn’t have been so badly written in the first place
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