An interesting video where the today shows interviews one of the most notorious naturals as of late: Mr. Paul Janka.
Notice the attitude and distortions presented. The guy does pretty well. He says a in a very intelligent manner that he does not lead women on. He doesn’t go around promising women marriages and then dumping them. He simply has sex with any attractive woman who will take him.
The show host, of course tries to rip on him for “preying on unsuspecting women”
The explanation she and the “expert” give on this is that —some women have had issues as children, so they get heartbroken when a man they fuck won’t marry them— And that somehow makes it man’s responsibility?
If I tell you that I want to only have sex with you… and you say that’s all you want too (but you’re secretly trying to get me to marry you)… I am the bad one?
-> I am the honest one.
-> You’re chick with childhood issues who’s lying to me in order to get me to marry you…
And I am the bad one?
Woooooah. This is getting super-scary. Did everyone’s IQ just plummet to record lows?
Huh?
Since when does that logic make sense?
What do they propose instead? That he marries the first woman who sleeps with him even though they’re not a personality-match? I don’t get it?
His method: I am searching for the right one. While I am searching, I have fun (mutual honest and upfront fun).
It’s a matter of statistics really. How likely is that the first person you meet be your perfect soul-mate? Not very likely. The more people you meet, the more likely you are to find your match. And one of the ways of getting to know people is through sex. How are going to know if a person is right unless you have sex with them?
Who are these people to tell me that I should marry the first girl who expresses interest in me, so that a few fucked up women don’t get the wrong signal? Whatever happened to taking responsibility? What’s up with this victim-lead society?
He takes his part of the responsiblity. He’s up front and tells people what he wants… But now… he’s supposed to also take responsibility for her? Because she’s not sure what she wants.
What happened to the women’s movement, weren’t they supposed to empower and liberate women and move them away from having to depend on men’s decisions. How come we’re back to men having to mind women’s decisions for them?
There Were some really intelligent comments on the MSNBC site though:
http://allday.msnbc.msn.com/archive/2007/12/10/507637.aspx
I thought Paul was very articulate, well spoken, non confrontational, intelligent and honest. Hard to find those qualities in a man. Mereidth and the Dr. interviewing him appeared inadequate compared to his candid and honest response. -> Annette, Denver, CO
Please know that all women, single or otherwise, are not “putty” in men’s hands. Paul has every right to be a Casanova, scoundrel, playboy, etc. It is every woman’s responsibility to stay on top of her personal relationships and to stay in “check”. If Paul purposely pursues vulnerable women, that is a different situation, but from his interview, I didn’t take him to do that. I am not sure he would even give two thoughts to the woman’s state of mind. -> Kimberly, Columbus, Ohio
I do not think Paul has an addiction, and I thought Natalie and the Dr. were condescending and rude. If the man does not want to get married why must we say there is something wrong with him. Monogamy, marriage and family is not for everyone. As a women I do not want any of those things. I get much support from both men and women for this. However, when a man is like this he is a sex addict. What a closed minded view in this day and age. -> Sunshine Pollard
I do not think Paul has an addiction, and I thought Natalie and the Dr. were condescending and rude. If the man does not want to get married why must we say there is something wrong with him. Monogamy, marriage and family is not for everyone. As a women I do not want any of those things. I get much support from both men and women for this. However, when a man is like this he is a sex addict. What a closed minded view in this day and age. -> Sunshine Pollard
Oh, grow up!! It is not a wonder why women are attracted to this man. Look at him. Listen to him speak. He’s great looking, interesting job, intelligent, confident. Why should all men be out shopping for a bride?? This is not 1950. I would have thought that your intereviewers would be slightly more enlightened than to blame his “serial dating” on having divorced parents. Come on! It seems that he is honest with himself and with the women he dates, (and hopefully practicing some very SAFE sex!) so maybe his answers just aren’t what some women want to hear. Doesn’t seem like the villain you may try to make him out to be. -> Bridget, Lagrangeville, NY
